Problems and challenges come into your life for YOU to find solutions.
The first time you face a big challenge, it throws you off balance. You feel lost and need help from someone, anyone.
When you were a child you always had someone to run to when you got hurt.
That mental attitude stays with us into adulthood. You gravitate towards friends who listen to your woes and offer help.
Then something major happens to you and it seems all of your friends are either too busy or can't help you.
So you learn to swim or sink. It is frightening and very uncomfortable to face a major difficulty alone.
That is when self-pity comes in. Self-pity is good for only a short while, because you learn to comfort yourself by reverting to a childhood behaviour.
You either stay in bed all day, eat comfort food or listen to music that makes cry until you have no more tears.
BUT, self-pity is a trap that can lead to depression if you stay in it for too long.
What you say to yourself is;
"I AM AN ADULT NOW AND I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO HANDLE THIS ON MY OWN.
NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I FEEL I AM A FAILURE, I AM GOING TO TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND OVERCOME THIS HORRIBLE FEELING. I DESIRE BETTER.
I DO NOT WANT TO STAY HERE IN SELF-PITY I AM GOING TO FI
ND SOMEONE I CAN HELP AND ENCOURAGE.
To your surprise when you make this resolve, you will indeed find people whose situation is ten times worse than your own.
You find strength to encourage and support them though you don't know how.
SUDDENLY, YOU HAVE BECOME AN ADULT.
You begin to see life differently. You become less vulnerable, you learn to accept people for who they are and not who you wish they were.
Your major difficulty has been surmounted; your new friends are people who just get on with life without allowing challenges to stop them.
WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF ENCOURAGERS
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